Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful and Compassionate. May His abundant blessing and most perfect of peace be on His Beloved Prophet, the best of creation, and his family, companions and followers.
Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,
It is the wife’s religious right that the husband take the reasonable means to fulfill her sexual desires. [Ibn Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar, ‘Kitab al-Nikah’]
She should sit and discuss this with her husband in suitable ways, and explain the situation, making clear that this is her right and his responsibility. When not possible through actual intercourse, the husband could do this through other means, such as bringing her to satisfaction using his hands.
Honest discussion on the basis of love and affection could reveal issues each party has that can be resolved in reasonable mutually-acceptable ways. Argument rarely works.
And Allah alone gives success.
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