Answered by Ustadha Zaynab Ansari, SunniPath Academy Teacher
In the Name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.
I apologize for the long delay.
So far, you have taken the right steps. You repented to Allah, felt remorse for your actions, and moved on with your life.
It is actually unlawful to discuss your past sins, unless there is a religiously-based reason for doing so.
It took a lot of courage to talk to your husband about this. However, now that you're happily married, it's time to move on. Don't let past sins define who you are today. You don't need to discuss it with anyone, and you don't need to dwell on it.
Pray to Allah Most High that He give you the opportunity to be reunited with your father in Paradise. You can still benefit your father by making dua for him and reciting Qur'an in his memory.
Let this be an opportunity for you to become a stronger Muslim and grow closer to your husband.
Here are some relevant articles from SunniPath:
Repentance, Talking About Past Sin, and Avoiding That Which Does Not Concern One http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?HD=1&ID=822&CATE=3
Peace and tranquility of heart: attained only through repentance and remembrance of Allah
May Allah bless you in your marriage.
And Allah knows best.
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