Answered by Ustadha Zaynab Ansari, SunniPath Academy Teacher
In the Name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.
I apologize for taking so long to reply.
Choosing a spouse is one of the most important decisions you'll ever make. Looking for someone with good religion and character is foremost. However, this is not the only consideration. Women should also look for men with stable and lawful incomes, and the ability to support them adequately.
Please see Ustadha Hedaya Hartford's Islamic Marriageat almuhajabat.com for more details on choosing a spouse.
At the very least, a man has to provide his wife with her own separate apartment, even if it's within the confines of his family's home. The wife should have her own living area, bedroom, bathroom, and kitchen.
Please think long and hard before you put yourself in a situation where you have no privacy. You deserve your own space. This is not a luxury, but a religious obligation upon your husband.
Please see this related answer:
A Wife's Right to Housing Separate From Her In-Laws and Others http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?HD=1&ID=273&CATE=87
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